When I still was in my relationship with my ex my BF was just as pigheaded then and refused to be my friend and hang out while I was taken and was totally ok with disappearing from my life. Gotta say not all asian families are like this. There's a difference between you and his "cousin. I don't think I'm that charming, I kinda look mean and bored all the time at least my BF says so.
She's been with him 28 years Could be a deal breaker.